What is proper parenting?
Every parent wonders if they are raising their child correctly. But in the vast array of literature on parenting, it’s easy to get lost and even develop an inferiority complex.In 20th-century pedagogy, parenting was viewed differently than it is today; physical punishment was a common practice. Modern literature emphasizes that if a child misbehaves, for example, yelling or hitting, it’s their parents’ fault; they missed something in their upbringing. In other words, modern parenting leaves no room for unintentional tantrums or misbehavior. And everything offered in such books is very general advice, but all children are unique. What works for one child may not work for another. So, how can you avoid getting lost in this diversity and find what works for both parents and children?
Parenting should begin with the following steps:
1. To avoid low self-esteem, say every day: “I am the best mom.” After all, no one can raise children better than their own mother; no parenting method can replace her 2. Let children know that their parents love them, even if they scold them 3. Constantly remind your children that they are the best. Praise them for what they do well, for their successes, even small ones.
4. Of course, scolding is still necessary, but it should be done sparingly, first understanding why the child acted in that way. But if it so happens that they are scolded (no one has nerves of steel), then don’t blame yourself, because the child knows that their parents love them.
5. If a child asks questions, don’t brush them off. Even when you’re busy, take a moment to talk to them. Many problems in adulthood arise because parents never find common ground with their children.
6. Children must be given the right to make mistakes; they will understand their mistakes and correct them. Children must experience their own mistakes.
And remember: children will be happy if their parents are happy. We must love each other; love will never harm anyone, unlike punishment, both verbal and physical. Punishing a child can cause severe psychological trauma, making them downtrodden, aggressive, and having poor academic performance. This can happen not only from physical punishment but also from emotional punishment. After all, words can cause such deep wounds. It’s best to avoid all forms of punishment.
